So is it just me, or do you always feel like you’re rushing around? I’m constantly shuffling dates in my calendar, to fit in kids parties, family catch ups, play dates, drinks, dinners, workshops, medical appointments, and whatever else comes up.
And believe it or not, I’m a bit old school and still use a paper calendar that hangs in my kitchen. Yes, I know it sounds completely ridiculous in this digital age we live in, but it’s how I roll. I like the tactile nature of it, and I can see a monthly overview at a glance, without having to pick up my phone, iPad or laptop.
So how did life get so busy? Is it just because I have Ava? Once upon a time, there’d be loads of free dates on the calendar, but now, it’s jam packed. There’s always a kids party, after school activities and playdates etc to juggle. Ava has a more active social life than I do!
There’s been a few times lately when I’ve made the decision to reschedule playdates, because Ava’s just too tired. School is really taking its toll and I’m so wary of putting too much pressure on her.
At the moment, she does one after school activity, and that’s swimming on a Thursday. She’s been swimming since she was two and it’s the one super important life skill that I want her to continue with.
Ava has asked if she can do ballet classes, but I didn’t want her to have the pressure of starting something new during Term 1. Now that Term 2 is almost here, I’ve been tossing up about doing ballet on a Saturday morning. I’m totally in two minds, as I’m very aware that it’s such a long term, and from what I’ve heard, a real struggle for the kids.
On weekends, I’ve been trying super hard not to schedule too much in, and to slow it down a bit. Most Friday nights, we watch movies at home, and on Saturday mornings, we literally stay in our PJs until lunch time. It’s great for both of us, and a really nice way to ease into the weekend.
It’s funny how times have changed. It was hard enough trying to juggle social stuff before Ava, but add her to the mix and the calendar just fills up.
Fitting in time for family and friends have never been so hard. There seems to be a never ending trail of texts and emails back and forth to book stuff in. And I find myself saying, ‘even if it’s a few weeks away, let’s just lock it in, as we know how time gets away from us!’
Remember the days when you’d just drop in to someone’s house to say hi? I don’t remember the last time I did that. We don’t just drop in to see friends any more. It all has to be locked in, well in advance and more often than not, venues are chosen and booked beforehand.
All this planning has wiped out spontaneity and even worse, the fun of doing stuff on the fly. So, I’m going to make an effort over the coming weeks, NOT to make too many plans. To be more spontaneous, to be more relaxed about life, to NOT be obsessed about booking stuff in. Wish me luck!