For the last few weeks I have tried as much as possible to focus on the positive. It’s not that I don’t do that normally, but I have a tendency to be very hard on myself. I’m my own toughest critic and sometimes focus on the things that I’m not doing so well. I was like that before having Ava but I’m even harder on myself now that I’m a mother.
I’m a perfectionist, I can always do it better. It’s not that I’m not confident, it’s just something in me that seems to find fault instead of celebrating the wins. I have trouble giving myself a pat on the back and often need other people to do that for me.
But, in saying that, I am getting better at recognising the wins. I have actually been coaching myself to, physically, give myself a pat on the back. Not just when something goes really well, but for the small stuff too. Like getting Ava to eat all her vegies or really hamming it up (with crazy accents etc) while reading bedtime stories to her.
So instead of worrying about whether I’m being a good mother, I’ve been mentally taking note of things that I’ve been proud of over the last two weeks. Here’s a few that stood out in my mind.
- Being an awesome Mum for Ava and her friend Harper on a Friday play date at ours. The girls did colouring, I painted their nails, we baked banana muffins, we made telescopes and binoculars, they played Barbies, they jumped on Ava’s bed, they hid from me (I found dirty footprints in the shower, ha!) and lots more. Basically they had a ball, and the minute they started to get bored, I was on it and we’d move on the next activity. In 5 hours, they only watched 40 minutes of TV! Stay tuned for a post on how to host a super fun play date.
- Not a huge deal, but I survived another trip to IKEA and managed to ‘build’ a new art and craft trolley for Ava. I spent all afternoon taking our art supplies (which were in a shocking chaotic mess!) out of the garage and created the best stash all in one spot. Ava’s eyes lit up the minute she saw it – ‘Did you make that Mum?’
- I’m happy to say that for the first three days (of my blog break/vacation), I didn’t touch anything to do with the blog. I watched loads of shows/movies on Netflix and Stan – Ash vs Evil Dead, John Wick, No Activity. I also caught up on great Aussie dramas on ABC and SBS – The Beautiful Lie and The Principal.
- I found cooking inspiration from Jane Kennedy’s, ‘Fabulous Food Minus the Boombah’ and made her easy Tom Yum Soup with Prawns. Oh my god, so good and SO easy. I’m addicted!
- I also got a head start on shopping for Christmas presents for Ava. Yay! And of course I loved every minute of it.
- I’ve just wrapped up presents for the Fat Mum Slim 2015 Gift Exchange. It’s my first time participating, and I’ve just sent my presents to the lucky recipient. To find out more, click here.
- I went to my first bloggers marketing event last week, The Bloggers Brunch, run by Kids Business Communications. It might sound odd, but I’m proud that I went by myself. I wasn’t sure if I would know anyone there, but it turns out I did. I had a great time connecting with new friends and also meeting the people behind some great Australian brands. Stay tuned for more on that note!
I do have a small confession to make. I may have taken a break from the blog, but I haven’t taken a complete step away. Although I haven’t been planning and posting content, I’ve been working on what I call the ‘top level marketing stuff’, the strategic stuff.
I’ve been working away in the background and contacting like minded creatives for possible collaborations. I’ve formed some great new relationships, the fruits of which you’ll see unfold over the next few months. It’s all very exciting and I’m realising that the possibilities are endless.
I’m doing my best to build on this blog, as my bestie in Perth calls it – empire building! We often text each other with updates and sign off with #empirebuilding. Love it!
I’m really proud of where I’ve got to in such a short space of time. To have been selected as a finalist in the Kidspot Voices of 2015 program was a huge achievement for me, as I’d only been blogging for eight months when it was announced.
And to top it off Ava has done so well at her first two orientation sessions for transition to school next year. I’m so proud of my brave little girl, she constantly amazes me and brings out emotions I never knew I had.
That overwhelming sense of wanting to protect her is so strong and I just want to hold onto her and not let her go. I must have hugged her a million times before she went into her little classroom with her prep ‘buddy’. I can’t imagine what it will be like on her first day of school, I just know I’ll cry. I’m welling up now just picturing her in her little uniform.
So folks, it’s good to be back and I’m all the better for having a break. Did you miss me?
Tell me what you’re proud of today, I’d love to hear from you.
PS – here’s a shot of me on Halloween after the kids played the ‘wrap up the mummy into a mummy’ game, ha!